The following reply was sent in response to a Dear Aggie letter printed in issue 5 of The Cameron Collegian regarding unethical relations between a student and an instructor.
Dear Between a Rock and an Ethical Place (from Oct. 6 edition),
The Office of Equal Opportunity/Title IX is the primary resource for reporting any suspected activities dealing with discrimination, sexual harassment, sexual assault, improper treatment by others and any other possible violations of federal and state laws and University policies. The office provides a single location outside of the normal chain of command where students, faculty, staff and visitors can report alleged violations. Initial contact is confidential. The phone number is 580- 581-6712 and the email address is tomr@cameron.edu
If you wish to know more about university policies with regard to consensual relationships between students and university employees, the University Consensual Sexual Relationships Policy may be found in section 3.2.6 of the Cameron University and Rogers State University Policy Manual at http://www.ou.edu/regents/policy.html or in the Employee Handbook in section 10.4 at http://www.cameron.edu/policies.
Sincerely,
Tom Russell, University Equal Opportunity Officer
Dear Aggie,
I’m in a bit of a dilemma. I met someone over the summer, and she’s really awesome. But I met her through a new friend of mine, a friend who happens to have feelings for her. I’m starting to develop feelings for her as well, but I know I shouldn’t pursue anything…or should I? Help?
Sincerely,
Conflicted
Dear Conflicted,
There are two ways you can go about this. You could pursue the gal and not talk to your friend about your feelings, or you can sit down with your friend and tell them you have feelings for the same woman.
Either way, this is a sticky situation. Make sure your romantic feelings for her are real and aren’t just developed because of newfound infatuation, or because your friend likes her too.
This isn’t a competition between you and your friend, and the woman isn’t a trophy to be won. But, you should keep her feelings in mind. You may need to figure out how she feels about you first before you confer with your friend. It may make things easier between you, but it may make things more complicated.
Don’t be afraid of difficult situations. Life is full of them, and you never know what the result will be if you don’t take the chance.
Sincerely,
Aggie
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